What I could find on the basic model is.
Accessories: AA alkaline batteries, USB cable, wrist strap, custom camera insert for optional Kodak EasyShare camera and printer docks (camera and printer docks not included)
Software Included: Kodak EasyShare
Hope this helps.

Finding camcorders with external Mic inputs are getting harder to find on the consumer level. They are out there, but it does take some extensive research to find one at a reasonable price. Look at Canon and Samsung to start. An external Mic plus a in line volume control will help with recording drums. Part of the problem with drum audio is that not only do you have a LOUD sound you also have a large air volume moving across the Mic. The small Mics on camcorders gets overwhelmed and flutters. You also want a camcorder that allows you to set the audio record level Manually. Leaving the audio on Auto will cause the camcorder to cut the audio in and out whenever the sound it too loud. The audio compressor causes this. In manual mode you can lower the record level and stop that from happening.

There are no plans to carry the SD890IS at this time. Keep checking back.

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend. Sony makes some of the most Light Sensitive Camcorders on the market. With the addition of Night Shot (and Super Night Shot) the camcorder will shot in complete darkness. All camcorders (Canon,JVC, Panasonic,..ect..) should come with a wireless remote, however a Mic Input is a very rare option on consumer grade camcorders these days.
Recording reliability is pretty much the same for all models and formats. Editing is best done on a computer but “in Camera” editing can also be done with some practice. Transfer to DvD can be done with a stand alone DvD burner by connecting with the supplied A/V (Audio Video) cables or transferred to a computer for burning later. Best wishes for your friend.